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Sunday, February 15, 2026

Why outside Metro Manila cities are left behind

The disparity between Metro Manila and other cities in the Philippines is a complex, multifaceted issue rooted in economic, institutional, infrastructural, governance, and social factors. Below, I detail the principal reasons—supported by a broad base of scholarly work—why cities outside Metro Manila have been left behind, referencing a wide array of independent academic sources.

1. Centralized Economic Growth and Agglomeration Effects


Metro Manila acts as the country’s main economic, service, and production hub, drawing substantial investment, talent, and infrastructure development. This concentration delivers agglomeration economies, such as improved productivity and opportunities, but also leads to neglect elsewhere as investments and people gravitate towards the capital, draining secondary cities of resources and workforce. The Philippines’ urban system is thus highly centralized, resulting in persistent inefficiencies and high transaction costs in other cities. Similar patterns are observed elsewhere, where uneven spatial development stems from density-driven agglomeration and resulting regional polarization. Economic geography literature emphasizes that such imbalances naturally arise without intentional policies to promote convergence.

2. Infrastructure and Service Deficits


Large disparities in infrastructure provision exist. While Metro Manila benefits from more robust transportation, communication, and utilities, cities outside are often plagued with inefficient, outdated, or insufficient infrastructure. Problems extend from water supply and waste management to digital connectivity, making smaller cities less competitive and less attractive to businesses and skilled workers. This lack of infrastructure is both a cause and consequence of inadequate investment, reinforcing the centrality of Metro Manila.

3. Weak Governance, Decentralization, and Resource Constraints


Governance capacity in many cities outside Metro Manila is frequently weaker, exacerbated by the devolution of responsibilities without corresponding fiscal and institutional support. Local governments have limited capacity to attract, retain, and fairly compensate essential professionals (e.g., in health, education, planning), creating persistent service shortfalls. Fiscal transfers from the national government are constrained by formulas tied to population, land area, and equal sharing, which disadvantage less populous or rapidly depopulating localities.

4. Private Sector Dynamics and Oligarchic Urbanism


Development patterns in the Philippines are shaped significantly by influential real estate and infrastructure conglomerates, often operating in closer alignment with Manila-based interests. This power concentration limits the scope and depth of planned urban expansion or modernization in peripheral and secondary cities, leaving them reliant on less dynamic public-private investment.

5. Human Capital Flight and Settlement Patterns


Many cities outside Metro Manila contend with outmigration of talent; skilled workers relocate to the capital or abroad in search of higher incomes or professional opportunities. The resulting “brain drain” decreases the capacity of outside cities to innovate, develop, and respond effectively to local challenges. Predictive modeling shows that economic activity, job creation, and infrastructure historically dictate urban growth—cities failing to attract sufficient investment and activity stagnate.

6. Policy Inefficacy and Institutional Constraints


While reforms and decentralization were intended to create responsive urban governance, in practice, policy effectiveness has remained limited by institutional inertia and lack of holistic frameworks that simultaneously address competitiveness, poverty, infrastructure, and governance. International studies of regional policy confirm that weak local institutions stunt growth and that efforts to boost lagging areas require robust, targeted, and context-sensitive approaches.

7. Urban Planning and Environmental Pressures


Poor coordination between national and local agencies, along with inconsistent urban planning, means that development outside Manila often lacks coherence, leading to urban sprawl, pollution, and increased vulnerability to environmental shocks. The challenges of managing tertiary or smaller cities’ urban environments are substantial due to resource and coordination deficits.

8. Health, Education, and Social Services Gaps


The provision of critical services—health, education, utilities—remains uneven. Local resource limitations hinder the ability of municipalities outside Metro Manila to deliver or maintain quality services, such as adequate health worker deployment, public health programs, and education, which in turn impedes broader social and economic development.

9. Global and Historical Context


The Philippine situation is mirrored globally: in both developing and developed countries, major economic hubs (urban primacy) tend to attract disproportionate investment and talent, leaving peripheral cities with fewer opportunities.

Final Word

In summary, the lag of cities outside Metro Manila is driven by systematic concentration of capital, services, governance, and talent in the capital region, alongside institutional weaknesses and underinvestment in infrastructure, social services, and governance capacity elsewhere. Strategic, decentralized, and context-sensitive interventions are needed to create multiple growth centers, strengthen local institutions, and address both economic and social disparities.

Sunday, February 08, 2026

The Freedom of Not Being Liked

Stop Worrying If People Like You. They Don’t.


Let’s face it: not everyone will like you. In fact, some people won’t even bother to know you before they decide they don’t. And that’s okay.

We live in a culture that feeds on approval, likes, followers, applause, validation. From school to the workplace to social media, we’re conditioned to crave acceptance. But here’s the truth bomb: spending your life trying to make everyone like you is the fastest road to disappointment.

Why People Won’t Always Like You

Personal Biases – People project their own insecurities, experiences, and prejudices onto others. Sometimes, their dislike has nothing to do with you.
Different Values – You can’t align with everyone. What you stand for may clash with what they believe.
Envy and Competition – Some people won’t like you simply because you remind them of what they lack.
Human Nature – We’re wired to form tribes. Some will see you as “other,” no matter what you do.

The Cost of Chasing Approval


When you live to be liked, you live a borrowed life. You compromise your values, mute your voice, and shape yourself into something you’re not, all to gain applause that’s fleeting at best. Studies show that people-pleasers suffer higher levels of anxiety, stress, and burnout (APA, 2019).

And here’s the kicker: even if you succeed in winning approval, the moment you slip, that approval vanishes. It was never yours to begin with, it was conditional.

The Freedom of Not Caring


When you stop worrying about whether people like you, you gain something priceless: freedom.
Freedom to live by your own values.
Freedom to pursue your passions unapologetically.
Freedom to attract people who appreciate you for who you truly are, not the mask you wear.

As Dr. Seuss once said, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

Redirect Your Energy


Instead of wasting energy convincing the world to like you, redirect it to:
Self-respect. The one person whose opinion truly matters is you.
Real connections. Invest in people who already see your worth.
Growth. Improve yourself for your own fulfillment, not to impress others.

Final Word


Stop worrying if people like you. They don’t—and even if they did, it’s not your job to live up to their expectations.

It’s your job to live fully, authentically, and courageously.
Because in the end, it’s not about how many people liked you, it’s about whether you liked the person you became.

Sunday, February 01, 2026

Fast love

Love Beyond the Butterflies: Why You Shouldn't Fall in Love Too Fast

It's all too easy to fall for someone when they're dressed to impress, talking sweetly, and playing the laugh-factor under the hot glow of new romance. When that's going on, love really does seem like magic. But the real test of any relationship isn't in the good times—it's in the storms.

Why Falling Too Fast Can Be Risky


Early in love, emotions are intensified. Psychologists refer to it as the "honeymoon phase." You view the other person with rose-tinted glasses, and then pretend that there are no flaws or red flags. That kind of love isn't sustainable. Life catches up eventually—bills come due, work gets hectic, issues arise. That's when the mask is removed, and you get to see who they actually are.
  • How do they treat you when they're exhausted?
  • Do they still revere you when they're under stress?
  • Can they be honest with you when they're broke or in financial struggles?
  • Are they patient and gentle when they're starving or frustrated?
These are the actual moments that show character.

The Right Person Makes Hard Times Easier

Real love isn't about not facing challenges; it's about how you encounter them with each other. The right person won't erase your issues, but they'll make the burden feel less heavy. They'll make you realize you're not by yourself, that even on the worst days there's a sanctuary in each other.

The wrong individual, however, will increase your load. They'll blame, withdraw, or put you down. That's why it's risky to get married too fast without actually knowing how someone reacts to life's inevitable difficulties.

Signs You're with the Right Person

  • They remain calm and encouraging when issues come up.
  • They talk openly rather than closing down.
  • They are respectful even during anger or exhaustion.
  • They struggle alongside you to resolve issues rather than letting you fend for yourself.
  • These are the characteristics that keep a relationship going past the butterflies.
  • Love That Lasts Requires Time
Falling in love too quickly may be exciting, but developing love that endures takes time. Take the time to really get to know someone, not simply during the highlight reel moments, but during the raw, unfiltered ones.

Because at the end of the day, true love isn't about who gets your heart racing—it's about who is there for you when the world gets too much.

Last Thought

Don't force love. Allow it to come naturally. The right person won't only love you in your best time; they'll stick around, hold you up, and love you through the storms.

Sunday, January 25, 2026

Boundaries That Will Save Your Peace as You Grow Older

Growing Older, Growing Wiser: Boundaries Everyone Should Learn

As we grow older, we start to realize one thing: life gets lighter when you learn to set boundaries.
Boundaries are not about pushing people away, they’re about protecting your energy, your peace, and your self-respect. Yet in a culture like ours, where pakikisama and self-sacrifice are deeply valued, setting boundaries can feel selfish.

But here’s the truth: boundaries are an act of love for yourself and for others.

Let’s break down some boundaries you must carry with you as you get older:

1. You’re Not Obligated to Solve Everyone’s Problems

Not every burden is yours to carry. While compassion is a virtue, constantly taking on others’ problems can lead to burnout and compassion fatigue (Figley, 1995). You can care without carrying everything.

2. Choosing Peace Needs No Justification

You don’t owe anyone an explanation for seeking peace. According to mental health research, reducing exposure to toxic environments can significantly improve emotional well-being (American Psychological Association, 2019). Your peace of mind is reason enough.

3. Not Everyone is a True Friend

As Dr. Brené Brown reminds us, trust is built in small moments over time (Brown, 2010). Not everyone who smiles at you deserves full access to your life. Learn to discern between acquaintances, temporary companions, and true friends. Connection is important, but discernment is essential.

4. You Don’t Have to Attend Every Fight You’re Invited To

Silence is not weakness—it’s wisdom. Walking away from unnecessary drama protects your mental health (Mayo Clinic, 2021). Not every battle is worth the scars.

5. Prioritizing Yourself is Self-Respect, Not Selfishness

Putting yourself first can feel guilty in a collectivist culture, but psychologists emphasize that self-care is critical for resilience (WHO, 2020). You can’t pour from an empty cup. Self-care sustains your ability to love others.

6. Walk Away From Disrespect

If a place, relationship, or workplace does not value you, it is not where you belong. Studies show that toxic relationships are linked to stress, depression, and even physical illness (Umberson & Montez, 2010). Respect yourself enough to walk away.

7. Not All Opinions Deserve Space in Your Life

Everyone will have opinions, but only you live with the consequences of your decisions. Filter whose voices you allow to shape your path. Advice is optional. Your choices are yours.

8. Privacy is Power

You don’t have to post every success, failure, or detail of your life. Oversharing can invite unnecessary stress, criticism, or exploitation (Derlega et al., 1993). Sometimes the best moments are the ones kept private.

Final Takeaway

Boundaries are not walls—they’re gates. They allow in what nourishes you and keep out what harms you. Learning to say no is saying yes to your peace, your dignity, and your future.

As you grow older, you’ll find that the best gift you can give yourself is not just more opportunities, but stronger boundaries.

References:

  • American Psychological Association (2019). Stress and Health.
  • Brown, B. (2010). The Gifts of Imperfection. Hazelden.
  • Derlega, V., Metts, S., Petronio, S., & Margulis, S. (1993). Self-Disclosure. Sage.
  • Figley, C. R. (1995). Compassion Fatigue: Coping with Secondary Traumatic Stress Disorder. Brunner/Mazel.
  • Mayo Clinic (2021). Conflict Resolution and Stress Management.
  • Umberson, D., & Montez, J. K. (2010). Social relationships and health: A flashpoint for health policy. Journal of Health and Social Behavior, 51(Suppl), S54–S66.
  • World Health Organization (2020). Self-care interventions for health.

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