Love Beyond the Butterflies: Why You Shouldn't Fall in Love Too Fast
It's all too easy to fall for someone when they're dressed to impress, talking sweetly, and playing the laugh-factor under the hot glow of new romance. When that's going on, love really does seem like magic. But the real test of any relationship isn't in the good times—it's in the storms.Why Falling Too Fast Can Be Risky
Early in love, emotions are intensified. Psychologists refer to it as the "honeymoon phase." You view the other person with rose-tinted glasses, and then pretend that there are no flaws or red flags. That kind of love isn't sustainable. Life catches up eventually—bills come due, work gets hectic, issues arise. That's when the mask is removed, and you get to see who they actually are.
- How do they treat you when they're exhausted?
- Do they still revere you when they're under stress?
- Can they be honest with you when they're broke or in financial struggles?
- Are they patient and gentle when they're starving or frustrated?
These are the actual moments that show character.
The wrong individual, however, will increase your load. They'll blame, withdraw, or put you down. That's why it's risky to get married too fast without actually knowing how someone reacts to life's inevitable difficulties.
Because at the end of the day, true love isn't about who gets your heart racing—it's about who is there for you when the world gets too much.
The Right Person Makes Hard Times Easier
Real love isn't about not facing challenges; it's about how you encounter them with each other. The right person won't erase your issues, but they'll make the burden feel less heavy. They'll make you realize you're not by yourself, that even on the worst days there's a sanctuary in each other.The wrong individual, however, will increase your load. They'll blame, withdraw, or put you down. That's why it's risky to get married too fast without actually knowing how someone reacts to life's inevitable difficulties.
Signs You're with the Right Person
- They remain calm and encouraging when issues come up.
- They talk openly rather than closing down.
- They are respectful even during anger or exhaustion.
- They struggle alongside you to resolve issues rather than letting you fend for yourself.
- These are the characteristics that keep a relationship going past the butterflies.
- Love That Lasts Requires Time
Because at the end of the day, true love isn't about who gets your heart racing—it's about who is there for you when the world gets too much.